7 Tips for Being Present
Being present means you are creating awareness, and being mindfully of things around you. It is all about paying attention, and not trying to interfere for "fix" anything.
This is way easier said than done, but I believe that as a follower of Jesus and I am to love people. In order to love people, I need to be present. Too often I interact with people, and I am not engaged, my mind is elsewhere.
Being present takes practice. Here are seven tips I have discovered that help me in this practice.
01 // GIVE SIGNIFICANCE TO INSIGNIFICANT MOMENTS
Look for everyday occurrences. Family dinner, morning coffee, beautiful weather, or a peaceful drive to work, and recognize that these things are beautiful. Don't overlook the small things, enjoy them, and be thankful that you can.
02 // REMEMBER TO CELEBRATE
Don't ever forget to celebrate something! Celebrating things help you reflect on them and their success. Celebrate birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, and your every successes, no mater how small. Look for an excuse to pour yourself a glass of wine, and cheers to something!
03 // DON'T FEEL THE NEED TO RESPOND
This is HUGE! So often people are thinking up their responses before someone is even done explaining their thought. Listen, then take a moment to thoughtfully respond, and remember not you do not need to respond to everything someone says.
04 // TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Take care of your body, feed your spirit, and be healthy emotionally. We are emotional, spiritual, and physical beings, and we need to make sure that our entire being is healthy. If you are not healthy in one of these areas, the others will suffer. It is really hard to be in an unhealthy place, and be present.
05 // BE OKAY WITH YOUR EMOTIONS
This is one that I have a really hard time with! We are emotional beings, and our emotions are not something we need to suppress, or ignore. It is important to not let your emotions rule you, but you also need to remember that emotions are a good thing.
06 // CREATE AN CELEBRATE DAILY DISCIPLINES
The Celebration of Discipline by Richard Foster is an amazing book about spiritual disciplines, and about how by developing them we experience growth and freedom. The same applies in all aspects of our lives, when we create personal disciples (like waking up early to read your bible, going to the gym, eating healthy, etc.) we grow, and experience freedom to be present.
07 // PUT AWAY YOUR PHONE
Start small. For two hours right after you finish work, put your phone away, and focus on things and people that are actually in front of you. And, for goodness sake, if you are our for dinner or coffee with someone, at a party or an event, don't look at your phone!
What are tips your have discovered for being present? I'd love to hear them!